Are You Under the Influence?
Whiskey, Vodka… or …..
How about …Someone else’s influence?
Here we are going to get right down to it..
None of them are necessarily a bad thing… unless they are affecting you negatively. Heck, many of us like a little influence – but a little too much influence… and welllll… let’s just say one can end up in the wrong frame of mind! Whether it’s from partying or listening to someone else’s opinion too long.
Influence Type – Success
Example: My dad has told me a 1,000x…
“If you want to be successful – surround yourself with successful people.” And honestly… it must work because he has had his share of success – in many different ways. Having a positive frame of mind with the right mindset is important. This type of influence has left me feeling excited, happy, and faithful in something more. (Expanded and ready for growth.)
*Can you remember some type of influence that recently helped you in some way?
Influence Type – Fear or Failure
Example: Conversation with a friend…
Me and a friend were on the phone discussing current events and she shares all the awful things that are going on in her life. And even though all this is very real to her, my opinions didn’t really resonate with what she was saying. In other words, my beliefs were different. This type of influence left me with a terrible feeling and honestly, almost nauseated. (Contracted, scared, and a little angry.)
*Can you remember some type of influence that recently caused you some type of discomfort or negative emotion?
That recent conversation led me to this post…
Influence vs Influencer
That negative emotion made me reevaluate. It was a gift because it made me realize that there was nothing wrong – I was just being influenced and in that – I found a HUGE KEY!
Navigation.
Our GPS system is always on. When we take a wrong turn, it re-navigates us. That GPS system is our emotions.
When we feel bad, it is key that we can identify and switch routes immediately. I mean… really… why wouldn’t you?
Yesterday, I was driving down Interstate 55 and missed my turn. I just wasn’t paying attention. My navigation system alerted me immediately. All I needed to do was go ahead and turn around and then I was back on track.
When you sense discomfort, how long do you wait before re-navigating?
That discomfort is asking you to clarify what you want at the moment.
What you want for…
• Yourself
• For the person you are interacting (or maybe just thinking about)
**Likely – you want the same for both of you.
Maybe it is:
• Power (for each of you to be in your power)
• Love (for each of you to feel loved)
• Respect (for each of you to feel respected)
The GPS system has navigated you into the clarification of expression. This is INTENTION. To me, intention is like prayers that we put out into the universe. Thoughts are energy. Thoughts can strengthen us (and even another) and thoughts can weaken us (and even another).
Here we have a new VISION for you and a new vision for them.
Here we STOP seeing ourselves (and them) in the old light and see both in a new light.
–>How we see ourselves and others is paramount, it is our perception.
–>Perception can not fail to deliver whatever it is that you focus on.
–>Here is where your purpose plays into the delivery of experiences. How others experience you is your purpose.
Influence others positively – and they experience happiness (or whatever your gift is…compassion, kindness, empathy).
But…
- You cannot GIVE anyone else your gifts (ie. happiness). They are not a commodity.
- You can only INFLUENCE their own vibration to a higher level.
- And you want their happiness not reliant on yours (and visa versa).
Here are 2 Exercises that can immediately shift you from a space of being the Influenced to the Influencer
Exercises:
- Breaking Cords
- Get into a relaxed
- Become aware of the presence of the control another may have over you. You can use your senses or inner sight to evaluate how this is affecting your overall physical body. First, view the other person in your mind’s eye facing you. Now envision that flow of power by imagining it as an invisible cord connecting both of you. Recognize where the cord or cords are and how they feel. Are they connected to a specific area? Do they encircle your body? Do they weaken you? Check for any discomfort your core, your chest, your shoulders, your arms, your neck, your head, your legs, or your feet. Use your inner sight to evaluate any sense of powerlessness or power that you are giving away to another and how this connection is affecting the body. Notice the strength of the link. Notice who is the one in power. Notice any pain or distress that it is causing you.
- Now allow that invisible cord to disconnect or break. Tell yourself that it is ok to separate or disengage – for it is best for them, and it is best for you. As you do this, you are able to sense that slowly both ends of the cord retract and go back to each of you.
- Now sense or envision the light in your entire body becomes stronger. This allows you to let go of any resistance, pain, or struggle in the body.
- Re-evaluate how you feel.
- Breathe and relax even more fully.
- Now slowly come back to your full awareness. See if you notice a shift in your physical body, emotions, or thoughts about the person or the situation you were thinking about.
- Light of Influence
- Close your eyes and get into a relaxed state.
- Envision a RED STOP SIGN. And stop wherever you are in thought (or conversation).
- Ask yourself what you want right now; increased power or possibly even an enhanced sense of confidence. *In this specific moment, it could be that you are still feeling the influence of the person envisioned in the previous exercise or influence of someone else.
- Focus on the core of your body; and in this space recognize that you are connected to a power that is what we will call your inner being. Within this space, you are strong, confident, and that know yourself as ALL powerful.
- See your inner core as light. Influence the light throughout your entire body (fully embodying it). Your entire body becomes an expression of light.
- Now allow this light to get larger and flow from you. If you have sensed that another was influencing you – see them separately in their own light… just as you see yourself. Allow your light to ignite the light within them. When you are in your power, you are appreciating the other and loving the other. You are influencing them now to be in their own power. An analogy is viewing yourself as the match that has been lit and now you are lighting or igniting that within them.
- Now slow your breath and relax even more fully into this state.
- Re-evaluate how you feel. See if you notice a shift in the conversation or your thinking.
- Now slowly come back to your full awareness and become mindful of how you are different emotionally and mentally. Do you feel more powerful? More confident? More genuine?
Being in your own power and others to do the same increases harmony on all levels.
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